Holding Mastery, Dissolving Illusions
So, as we glide into the holiday season, I'm called to share the value of holding our loved ones in their mastery, even when they're caught in their stuff.
Picture this. . .
Every one of your close family members standing around you seeing you through the eyes of love. You radiate in your giftedness. They see you as a being filled with light, with love. Loving you for being exactly as you are. This is remembrance. Can you feel that?
Great, now switch. Practice placing each family member in the center of the circle in your mind. What if you could see each of them through your eyes of love? Radiating their brilliance. As their essential, unmasked, uncloaked selves--not an angsty laden with defense mechanisms versions of themselves--but really as their masterful essence selves? Repeat with each member.
What might your holiday be like?
What energy might cook into the food?
How might conversations evolve?
How might you feel?
"Wait a second, Sheryl, um, that's just a fantasy. That ain't never gonna happen in my family."
So, let it begin with you.
Here's what's on offer. Your family may or may not ever be able to reflect the beauty of your own mastery back to you. The truth is, it is each of our jobs to clear our own internal mirrors, and to strengthen our visioning such that no one, and I mean no one, can distort your own lens on your divinity.
I repeat the great words of Panache Desai, "There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. You do not need to be fixed." As you clarify your own mirror, you see this more and more radiantly as the truth. You no longer need this to come from outside, and of course, your glow, your brilliance becomes evident to others like the sun.
"So, Sheryl, if it's our jobs to clarify our own mirrors, and our family's jobs to clarify their own mirrors, why do we hold them in their mastery. Why not just let them clear it themselves?"
Yeah, so here's the deal. They are truly the only ones who can clear it, and still, how do you want to show up in the world? As someone who is feeding the lies that they're already telling themselves about all the reasons they're not enough? Or as someone who is holding up a clear mirror of brilliance to them, reminding them of how amazing they really are?
My mom always said, "You catch more flies with honey, Sheryl." I offer an uplevel of that proverb.
As we allow our own hearts to be filled with our soul light purity (honey), the darkness inside ourselves and others, the forgetfulness (flies) will be attracted to it's own soul light purity (honey), and remember that at our essence, we're made up of photons. Light. By being the light, and feeding the light, we dissolve the debris of illusions and create more light. This is the path. This is the honey-filled journey.
Tools to practice:
1) identify the light inside yourself
2) identify the light inside your loved ones
3) see the reality of how they're showing up
4) face any intense feelings head on, actually feel them (schedule sessions as needed to support with this: firstname.lastname@example.org or 248-433-3000)
3) take appropriate action, which may include leaving an unhealthy situation or having a difficult conversation, or enjoying a new evolving dynamic
4) hold yourself and your loved ones in their mastery, the essence of their light
How to Hold Yourself in your Mastery:
See yourself in your mastery. In a moment when you loved your essence. A moment when you were being your most evolved self. Lean into that moment. Grow it. Evolve it. Feel how non-reactive, non-judgmental, non-attached to any outcome you are in that moment. Just simply loving you and seeing yourself clearly. Light a candle. Set the intention to feed your own honey soul light. Sweep your hands from the candlelight to your belly, from the candlelight to your heart, from the candlelight to your head. Namaste, friends and deep Munay to all.
Transform your holidays into true holy days. Choose to energize, to feed, to nourish the healthiest parts of yourself and your family. To be the clearest mirror possible of divine grace.